A group of 45-year-old guys discuss where they should meet for dinner.
Finally they agree on Kelley's Restaurant because the
waitresses have low cut blouses and nice proportions.
10 years later at age 55, the group agrees to meet at Kelley's because the food is good and the wine selection is excellent.
10
years later at age 65, the group agrees to meet at Kelley's because
they can eat there in peace and quiet and the restaurant is smoke free.
10
years later at age 75, the group agrees to meet at Kelley's because the
restaurant is wheelchair accessible and they have an elevator.
10 years later at age 85, the group agrees to meet at Kelley's because they have never been there before.
(Via Miss Cellania)
At 55, 65, 75, and 85, I'd like to think that in addition to the other reasons, I'm still going to Kelley's because their waitresses have low cut blouses and nice proportions. Just sayin'...
ReplyDeleteYou lost half your audience at the "low cut blouses" line. Us non-default humans don't like to be reminded of how many times we are the object rather than the actor in a joke/movie/plot/life. Thanks! (Sorry to be so cranky. I love this blog. Just doing my part to inform the uninformed about unintended consequences of jokes.)
ReplyDeleteIn my defense, I'll just point out that females are NOT the "object of this joke." The object is males - specifically elderly males with dementia and memory loss. If anyone has a right to complain about being the object of a crude joke, it would be senior citizens reading the blog.
DeleteAnd I would not agree that the mention of a female human's attractiveness is necessarily intended to be, or is per se deprecating or demeaning to women.
I may be, as you claim, uninformed, but I am not insensitive. And I also obviously have cranky moments...
Ha, I thought for a second about why I laughed at the dementia joke and not at the objectification of women. I guess I could stand to have some sensitivity towards those more advanced in years.
DeleteIt's okay to be uninformed. And I applaud your posting of a wide range of things and having an open comment forum so the experts can chime in. I'm not an expert on feminism (being a woman doesn't just magically make you one) but references to the attractiveness of women are indeed deprecating. When these comments are hundreds of times more frequent than references to male attractiveness, it starts to get really boring. It must seem counterintuitive that a complement can be a tiny dagger, though. How can that be? Aren't I being oversensitive? Men can't *help* appreciating women's looks!
Biology dictates that (hetero) men find women attractive (and vice versa). Biology does not dictate that men occupy most positions of power in our society, and that there are hundreds upon thousands of "missing women" in our male-centric history books. Until the ills of society are taken care of, women will continue to fight tooth and nail in order to be seen NOT as an object. So yes, even those harmless jokes and cat-calls (which some men might think is like paying a high compliment) are going to feel demeaning and deprecating.
That's just how it is.
At 15 gals love the attention, at 25 gals still like it, at 35 gals write to blogs and complain, at 45 gals wonder what happened to all the attention they used to get, at 55.......oh, sorry, I stopped caring.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you (and I qualify) but I laughed out loud. Sometimes reality is funny.
DeleteWell, no, not all of us love/loved the attention. And no, I don't wonder what happened to the attention I used to get from strangers/acquaintances/coworkers, etc. .
DeleteI'll finish it for you. At 55 gals are happy because they're finally getting attention for their brains, and at 65 they just laugh, and laugh ... because of the folly of your youth spent trying to educate the un-educateable internettizens.
ReplyDeleteBrava, pentalith!
ReplyDeleteInteresting. A friend sent this joke to me a month or so ago, only it was women going to the restaurant because of the cute young waiters. Apparently, someone thought that it was too politically incorrect to make fun of women and dementia, and changed to to men.
ReplyDeleteZing!
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